In a wide-ranging conversation, Carey talks to author, futurist, film-maker, designer and pastor Erwin McManus about his childhood, how he got over his need for approval, why narcissism is so prevalent in leadership (including how to spot a narcissist), and what he experienced at this year’s Global Leadership Summit.
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Links from this Episode
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3 Insights from this Episode
1. Spend more time preparing over planning
So many of us spend time making plans for our lives, but don’t reserve time to cultivate our character. College selections, career choices, cities to break ground in and start a family – there’s a way to plan out every aspect of life.
What we don’t tend to spend enough time doing is preparing our character for the journey. The plans you have will require making difficult choices along the way and those choices are made based on your character. Invest more time on your heart than on your plan.
2. Humility can be found in practical applications
Humility can be an elusive characteristic to pinpoint, but there are practical applications you can make in an effort to be more humble.
Do you have an inherent drive toward admiring humble people?
Do you have a willingness to decentralize power?
Do you empower others to make important decisions?
Do you have a desperate need to learn and be taught by others?
Humility isn’t the sense that you are nothing. It’s more of a self-awareness that there’s more going on in this life outside of just you. Maybe you can never know if you’re genuinely humble, but you can be intentional about doing humble things.
3. Narcissism has key traits and the church needs to be more aware about how to spot them
A Narcissist has:
A high need for praise because the world needs to be about him.
A view that there is no one in the world who can do something better than she can.
A Narcissist doesn’t:
Ask for help because he doesn’t believe anyone else could ever solve a problem that he can’t solve.
Take risks because if she fails it will completely violate her identity.
Accept responsibility for failure, because in his mind the failure was some else’s fault.
Quotes from This Episode
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