CNLP 535: Kayla Stoecklein on the Unsustainable Pressures of Ministry on Church Leaders, How to Grieve Your Losses, and Overcoming Victim Mentality

Kayla Stoecklein returns to the podcast four years after her husband, Andrew, died by suicide to talk about the unsustainable pressures of ministry on church leaders, how she’s grieved her losses, making sure your loss doesn’t define you, and how to overcome your victim mentality.

Welcome to Episode 535 of the podcast. Listen and access the show notes below or search for the Carey Nieuwhof Leadership Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts and listen for free.

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Quotes from Episode 534

I think there's some pressure to look a certain way to have some kind of Instagramable one liner or punchline, which is wild because pastors aren't standup comedians. Kayla Stoecklein Share on XIf you’re a pastor's wife, you have a voice and your thoughts matter and your opinion matters and your insight matters. And don't be afraid to use it. Kayla Stoecklein Share on XI think so often pastors say that it's God, family and then the Church, but it's often church, God, family. Family kind of gets the leftovers. Kayla Stoecklein Share on XWe don't have to stay stuck in our pain. Kayla Stoecklein Share on X

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